One thing that will definitely stand in the way of manifesting what we want on the physical plane is holding a grudge. I get it: You’ve been wronged. It was unjust. It hurt. You want the other person to acknowledge their mistake and say they are sorry – or pay with a little pain of their own… But it is a rare moment, indeed, that people will take ownership of someone else’s (your) feelings and lamenting over the upset only acts as an energetic block in that area of your life.
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” – Buddha
You know this. You know that forgiveness is not consent for the mistreatment and that forgiveness has to do with freeing yourself from the pain. But sometimes it feels as if we just can’t let go. We replay the abuse over and over again in our minds and struggle with shutting off our negative thoughts and feelings. In such situations, ritualized forgiveness may help finally release you from the agony.
Schedule a quiet time when you will not be interrupted. Write out a letter to the person who hurt you. (It is preferable to do this by hand.) Allow yourself to go ahead and let out whatever you feel you need to. Be angry. Cry. Anything goes.
When finished with the letter, fold it nine times, making the folds away from yourself each time.
Prepare the candle by dressing with the essential oil. Ignite the candle and hold the paper over the flame, saying:
I forgive [person’s name].
I give my pain to the purple flame;
I release it and feel it no longer.
[Or whatever similar wording resonates with you.]
Ignite the paper and allow it to burn in a fireproof container.
Sit and meditate in front of the candle, imagining that as the wax melts, so does your anger and pain. This spell should be seen through to total completion, allowing the candle to melt all the way down until it extinguishes itself, so it is encouraged to select a smaller-sized candle. Once the spell is complete, scatter the ashes at a crossroads or in a cemetery.
It is my sincere hope that all who read this find peace. ❤